The Only Two Kinds of People

I took myself out dancing the other night, and I was reminded of one of my favorite metaphors for life.

Passing through Ft. Worth on my road trip, I stopped at the iconic Billy Bob's Texas. Hailed the world's largest honky tonk, I've dreamed about dancing there ever since I first visited (during dinner hours only) way back in 2015.

As soon as I got there, I parked myself at the edge of the dance floor. In no time, a gentleman in his 70s came over and asked me to dance. Men of his age are my favorite dance partners because they know how to lead, and they're not trying to pick me up. Soon, I was twirling around and around and smiling from ear to ear.

This is my happy place: the middle of a sawdust-covered dance floor.

Throughout the night, I danced with others as well as by myself during line dances. At one point, I found myself looking out at all the people sitting around the edges, watching those of us on the dance floor, and it hit me that those are the only two kinds of people in this world:

Those doing the thing and those sitting around watching them and wishing they were.

At one point, I took a break to catch my breath. Standing on the edge of the dance floor, a woman grabbed my arm and said, "You are SUCH a good dancer! I wish I could dance like that." Her friends all agreed. They wanted to know my "secret."

"You can dance like that too," I said. "The trick is just to do it. And to find a partner who can lead."

I believe this is the great metaphor for life.

Whatever you want to do, whether that's dancing or losing weight or trusting your intuition or eating healthfully--anything you want to do, you can do it. And the "secret" is just to do it. That's it. No special sauce, no magic wand.

It's all a practice. We're all learning and growing and getting better at the things we choose to spend our time and energy on.

And eventually, we have to turn over control and be willing to surrender to co-creating with another force, something outside ourselves. Life, the Uni-Verse, the Force, God, Fate, Coincidence--whatever you choose to call that partner you're dancing through life with.

But you HAVE to be willing to step out on the dance floor. To make the first move.

You have to go from wishing you could [insert the thing you most want to be learning and doing here] to deciding to do the damn thing already.

"Wanting can be done sitting on the couch with a bong in your hand and a travel magazine in your lap. Deciding means jumping in all the way, doing whatever it takes, and going after your dreams with the tenacity of a dateless cheerleader a week before prom night."

-Jen Sincero

Wanting keeps you standing at the edges of your life. Deciding means actually living it.

I know this is speaking directly to a dream within you right now, and I want to know what that is--and the first step you're going to take to make that happen. Hit reply and share with me now.

With Fierce Love,

Chazz

P.S.

I'm leading a group of women who are in this space of transition--from wanting to deciding--in my next group coaching program. When you're ready to take action toward making a chance and be supported and held accountable in a group setting, click here to join.